Lee Harrington: http://passionandsoul.com/faq/screening
On July 28th 2010 I appeared on a panel
at the Desiree Alliance Conference in Las Vegas called “Developing
a screening policy that works for you; keeping you safe and ensuring
your success!” The other panelists were Crysta Heart, Erica
Smith, Marcus, Mistress Scarlet, Riley Nicole and Tracy Brassfield.
I wanted to be on the screening panel when Crysta asked if I could
do it, because when I started doing porn in 1999, I did not know
stuff to ask. I did not realize for example that doing an SM shoot
that they would leave marks that took months to have go away and
that I should ask for extra compensation for that legal shoot. In
2002 when I did my first gig as a dominatrix, when clients started
contacting me, no one showed me how to figure out if they would
be made of crazy, if they would stand me up, or if they would potentially
be violent. In 2003 when I saw my first escort client, I did not
have the foggiest.
It is now 2010, and I still see select clients (see my Shaman page).
It is not the focus my life any more, but it is still part of my
At the end of the panel, I took the audio file we had recorded
during the panel and transcribed the notes. This was met with mixed
opinions on the internet, and the following is an edited version
of what I first put up- thanks to some insights that were provided.
So what I offer here are some guidelines, concepts, and ideas on
what sorts of questions I used to ask folks, including easily findable
(if you read many escort sites and follow their screening pages)
programs and projects, and a hope that we each work together to
help those who are trying to build a living do so more safely.
This is not an all-inclusive list, and screening your clients (for
a variety of concerns, from physical safety to legal awareness,
emotional concerns to “time wasters,” keeping an eye
out for new folks who need extra help and more) is an art, not an
exact science. We found in discussion that tools that were fantastic
for some parts of a group did not work at all for others (example
of asking for complete legal names for high end female escorts for
men almost never happens for many mid to high end male escorts for
This reference page is not in any way intended as advocating for
any sort of illegal activities or encouraging anyone to engage in
adult service provider jobs.
Thank you all
Many of the following tips apply to all forms of providing services,
while further down, I discuss stuff just for Fetish folks and Adult
These are some of the questions I have asked clients over the years.
I get concerned in general if I ask a question, and a client provides
too much info but never answers what I asked:
Have you seen my website?
What has your experience of seeing escorts in the past been?
What was your favorite session and why?
What challenges have you had seeing professionals in the past? What
would have helped those challenges?
What are you hoping for out of seeing me/getting together?
Have you seen anyone else locally?
Why do you want to see me specifically?
Where are you staying?
What kind of connection are you hoping to build with me?
I prefer to build recurring connections, is that something you are
Do you have any preferences I should know about beforehand?
Anything I can do to make this a more pleasurable evening for you?
I learned a few things along the way, through the panel or on my
Asking clients to please bring your favorite supplies you think
we might need or enjoy.
To not discuss money or sex over the phone or explicitly on websites.
That some work uses specific slang, and knowing what that slang
means will stop me from agreeing to something I do not in fact offer.
When I got started I had no idea that there were systems online
I could look at, or that other service providers were willing to
give references. I had this perception that it was everyone for
themselves, when in some areas this is not true! There are people
willing to watch each others back… in some parts of this work,
but not all.
Some of the sites I learned folks can ask questions about providers,
clients, and get date checks:
And I also learned that someone providing a referral does not mean
they are giving a full reference for the client being reliable,
safe, etc. Asking the reference provider about how it went, and
doing research on that reference, is important too.
I also learned some stuff about personal safety:
OTIS- Offender Tracking Information System
Put the client’s name into the system for your state (search
on google using the above “Offender Tracking Information System”
followed by the state you are working in for the OTIS system for
When checking for complete profiles, some great sites include:
(costs $35 for a search, but provides tons of info… no need
to buy up to more expensive package, not necessary, $35 search is
DC area? Check this blacklisted list first http://blacklistednow.blogspot.com
Requesting a picture in advance allowed me to meet people easier
in the flesh, but also gave me something, along with name, email,
and other details, that I could give to my safety/security/backup
Google the phone number they provide, are they giving you the real
hotel number? Call the real hotel number via phone listings and
ask for their legal name.
Are they too eager/pushy? Are they happy to see anyone and not
screen you at all? These are often not a good sign.
I found out there were things that other providers do:
Work verification systems- does their name appear in company directories?
When you search their business name, is it a legal business?
If you book a session with one person and extras show up, be wary
of surprise extra folks
Investigate your hotel- indoor/outdoor access (can folks watch you
walk in and out of your room), if the chain is known to be anti-establishment.
Not see clients who are first timers at the club they work at.
Doing straight sessions with nothing extra for first time clients.
Make friends with other workers in clubs, having people to watch
There are some great resources out there!
If folks are new, recommend them to
“Advice for a Good Experience”
Check out this great Screening suggestion list at SWOP-Michigan:
And this great safety resource collection of links at SWOP-USA:
Different folks handle their information and funds different ways…
Deposits/ pre-gifts are encouraged by some
Paid calls in advance are encouraged by others
Amazon wishlists (making sure that universal wishlist folks don’t
give out your home address on the receipt)
(using the donations system)
Paypal can freeze your accounts if associated with adult work (including
Keep your own files on your computer in an easily searchable manner
is recommended by some. When a number comes in, search the system-
has this person called before? Same with email addresses. Some clients
will change their name and try again, but use same number/edress.
Consider investing in a non US-based database system for your database,
such as Safe Office
Google calendar is publicly accessible- do NOT put an email address
in google calendar, it will notify them of the file their edress
appears in (and often time, your legal name/info)
There are some concerns that are less about screening and more
about overall safety:
Make sure you are not traveling without money- being broke leads
to cutting corners and taking gigs that you feel bad about out of
Before your session- lock your computer/phone (password protect)
as some clients are looking for stuff for post-session
Make sure not to leave keys out/accessible
Let clients know you are doing safety calls, have plans later that
night, and/or that someone knows where you are
Research your complete tour in advance- search for the city, county
and state laws, legal issues, the terms for your kind of work in
conjunction with all of the above.
Physical health: Do you have supplies for staying healthy? In lots
of sizes and materials beyond latex in case of allergies?
Do you know how to visually do inspections?
I personally do not take folks “on their word” on health
Providing STD testing information for all sexually active folks
is a great way to help the world at large, and many counties offer
free services. Whether to link this with your own work is up to
you, but I think it is important activism for the world at large.
Whether appearing in film or video, I tended to ask folks…
Where can I see your portfolio? OMP site?
Who has been your favorite model to work with? What did you love
about working with him/them/her?
What project is this for?
What are some of the names of the films you have shot in the past?
(then look them up and see how widely distributed they were)
What kind of project is this?
What would you like me to bring with me to the shoot? (if nothing,
I tended to be very wary)
Can I get a password to that site beforehand?
If private collection: Can I see a few of your favorite pics you
have shot from shoots in the past?
Do you have a space my driver/escort can wait during our shoot?
Do you pay by the hour, camera hour (hours of footage recorded)
How long do you expect our shoot to last? (followed up by “oh
good, I can have someone pick me up at X time then,” or “fantastic,
I was hoping to do Z afterwards and a meeting friends there.”)
How many people are on your crew? (safety in numbers with unknown
Should I plan for hot lights or flash? (if photo, shows you know
Who will my co-stars be? (be wary of surprise co-stars, and consider
writing those co-stars in advance and creating a connection)
Some of my favorite questions…
What has your experience of seeing dominants in the past been?
What was your favorite session/scene and why?
What challenges have you had seeing professionals in the past? What
would have helped those challenges?
How involved are you with public kink?
How long have you been exploring kink?
How do you identify in kink? (Bottom, submissive, slave, kinky,
Please fill out this checklist for my entertainment/enjoyment…
Have you read my website? (Then quiz them)
What about X activity is hot for you?
Whom have you seen before? What was your favorite part of playing
with them? (then checking said reference)
Why don’t you see them any more?
What is the hottest thing about kink for you? (is it a real person
answer, or is it “being in total subservience to…”
What are some fantasies you have had involving seeing me?
And some things I learned/developed along the way…
Having folks strip at beginning of session for me helps me maintain
control of situations and make sure clients are not hiding anything.
Staying calm and in control in strange situations is key.
Folks will say the most curious things, and it is hard to know if
they mean them.
I tend to shy away from hyper-demanding people who have never had
a session with me yet.
I tend to shy away from whiny people.
Encouraging a pre-gift from my wishlist or that they think I would
That if I am meeting a new client, I have the right to meet them
in a semi-public place… especially if I make it into part
of the scene in a covert way.
How well does your house screen your clients for you?
Would your phone person take the call?
What information do they take for you?
Look through the first list- what do they do?
How established is your house/agency/manager?
What cut do they take? Is it fair?
What behaviors do the other folks in the agency do? Are they putting
you at risk with their behaviors?
If traveling in general:
Look at local lists of “bad johns”
Having backup people in each location
If meeting in public, girlfriend/associate who can be hanging out
with you or nearby when guy shows up to get a visual look at them
Clear info that you are expected elsewhere at some point and would
be missed if did not call
Notes to All
Avoid impulcity, desperation, fear, intimidation or lack of self-respect
or personal boundaries… these lead to poor choices.
If it is too good to be true, it probably is.
Are they providing too much info while not answering basic questions?
Double check your uncertain feelings with friends and allies.
Be concerned around dramatic changes in plans
Consider your physical safety concerns- security person, someone
in next room
Make sure to build up layers of reference: how many points have
they provided? Does this seem to be a good full picture?
Negatives in building references trump positives
Listening to your body wisdom (if heeby jeebies, online or in person,
what is your body telling you?)
A note to male escorts- be aware that because of cultural taboos,
and a different culture in men for men hiring, that some of these
systems for screening such as asking for full legal names may be
far more challenging if possible to do at all.
Important links for all Adult Service Providers:
Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP)- http://www.swopusa.org
Desiree Alliance Conference- http://www.DesireeAlliance.org
Network Of Sex Workers Project- http://www.nswp.org
Prostitute’s Education Network- http://www.bayswan.org/penet.html
The Sex Worker’s Project- http://www.SexWorkersProject.org
$pread Magazine- http://www.$preadMagazine.org
Regional or National lists/resources:
Asia Pacific Network of Sex Work Projects http://apnsw.org/apnsw.htm
Bay Area Sex Workers Advocacy Network (BAYSWAN)- http://www.bayswan.org
Call Off Your Tired Old Ethics (COYOTE, USA) http://www.walnet.org/csis/groups/coyote.html
Collective of Sex Workers and Supporters (Taiwan) http://coswas.org
Cybersolidaires (Montreal, Canada) http://www.cybersolidaires.org
Durbar Mahila Samanwaya Committee (Sonagachi Project, Kolkata, India)
Empower Foundation (Thailand) http://www.empowerfoundation.org
European Network for HIV-STD Prevention in Prostitution http://www.europap.net
European Network Male Prostitution http://www.enmp.org
International Collective of Prostitutes (England, UK) http://www.prostitutescollective.net
The International Union of Sex Workers (England, UK) http://www.iusw.org
New Zealand Prostitute’s Collective- http://www.nzpc.org.nz
Prostitutes of New York (PONY, USA) http://www.walnet.org/csis/groups/pony.html
Red de Trabajadoras Sexuales de Latinoamerica y el Caribe (Argentina)
Scarlet Alliance (Australia)- http://www.scarletalliance.org.au
Scottish Prostitution Education Project (Scotland, UK) http://www.scot-pep.org.uk
Sex Worker Education and Advocacy Taskforce (SWEAT, South Africa)
Sex Workers Project, New York (USA) http://www.sexworkersproject.org
Stella, Montreal (Canada) http://www.chezstella.org
Zi Teng (Hong Kong) http://www.ziteng.org.hk